Why do I get in my own way?

I am tired of beating myself up…something needs to change!

Is this

Your story?

Do you lay in bed reminding yourself of all the things that you SHOULD have done that day?  But for some reason you did not get them done…  Now you remind yourself of this failure over and over and start making yourself feel guilt, shame, or any similar damaging emotion!? 

Are you torn inside about what you SHOULD do vs what you ACTUALLY do, and what you really WANT?  Is this self sabotage?

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Do you consistently beat yourself up with negative self talk such as “You are so stupid” or “You idiot!” or even “I can’t believe you just did that”!?  This inner dialogue continues over and over making you feel horrible inside!

After a while you switch to your standard pep talk with things like “just try harder” or “come on, just be smarter next time”!  Next, you muster up enough courage and energy to move past the situation, but the cloud of negative emotions sticks with you and ruins the new moments or maybe it lasts for days.  

If this is you, then you are not alone!  Unfortunately this pattern is the way most people live their lives.  Their critical inner voice judges themselves (you), the people around them and their circumstances.  It makes life miserable.     

Does your critical inner voice stop you from feeling good about yourself?  Do you feel conflicted inside about an event or something that needs to be done?  Are you stopping yourself from becoming more in life?  

If so, would you be interested in a better way to live without the self sabotage?  

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The

Solution to stop self sabotage

Stop living life the hard way!  Stop your self sabotage!  Imagine what your life would be like if you didn’t have this constant negativity screaming at you!  What if your entire being was fully aligned to your goals?  How specifically would your life be different?!  Would you feel a sense of relief?  Start believing in yourself?  Finally feel empowered to do what life is calling you to do?!

This is where my online Life Coaching can help!  With my 1-1 sessions or through my “Discover Your Freedom and Conquer Life” training package, I will help you gain tremendous self-awareness around your inner critic, learn to see yourself in a different way that makes you understand what is stopping you in the first place, and together we can put an action plan in place for your life according to your goals.  In the process, you may even meet your true self for the first time!!  The real you, the one unaffected by all of life’s noise…  This package is amazing and very transformational, and I would love to work with you!

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“Discover Freedom & Conquer Life”

Training Program

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Together we will unravel YOUR inner conflicts and teach you to let go of personal anchors so that you have a greater potential to pursue whatever makes you happy in life!  

With this new balance, you will experience more personal energy to finally take action and build the life that you deserve!  

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Take a look at this great resource that may help you jump-start your understanding about why we do the things we do, even though they are not good for us.  Feel free to download this E-book titled “Your Achilles Eel” by Mike Bundrant.  Enjoy!  More information can be found at www.inlpcenter.org

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Testimonials

“After my wife passed, I was struggling with how to be the “good dad” that I wanted to be.  Jeff helped me develop some actionable steps that I could take to make sure I was meeting my children’s needs and expectations.  As it turned out, the unrealistic “good dad” persona I had imagined was nothing like what my children actually wanted.  Thank you Jeff!”

s.d.r. - ohio

“Jeff has totally redefined my approach toward healing and self-growth through shadow coaching.  He taught me to look within and comfortably work through negative thought patterns, beliefs, and fears.  I have become more aware of my everyday psyche allowing me to find the compassion and mental toughness inside me to succeed.  I can’t thank you enough Jeff!”

sabrina p. - california

“Jeff guided me through an emotional trauma with gentility, compassion and assurance. He steered me to detach from my own self-destructive thought patterns and explored seeing things from a different perspective. With Jeff I felt safe, valued and heard. With his help I was able to set aside my internal critical voice for one with greater objectivity and reality.”

david b. - california